Definition of 'Friend' :- A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations.
These days, true friendship is hard to find. My theory is that it's because I'm getting older and so are all my 'friends'. We're all changing and moving on and our focus is on different things. Jobs, University, relationships, marriage and even babies!
I only have a handful of people (that I'm not related to) that I can call friends by the above definition. They know exactly who they are because I actually tell them how special they are to me and that I'm thankful to have them in my life. I do actually have a bond with those people and we share a mutual affection towards one another. We can talk for hours without there being awkward silences. We can have a laugh and I can be myself with them! Nothing is more important in a friendship than being able to just be myself around that person and talk about literally anything. It's being there for each other when you feel like you don't have anyone else. It's talking through the night until the problems are solved. It's having fun and being childish and stupid and not having a care in the world. It's being a good influence on each other. Teaching each other, learning from each other, trusting each other and believing in each other.
If you've just thought 'That sounds like me and...', you hold on to them and don't let go! You tell them that you're glad you met them and thank them for everything they've done for you. My handful of friends have made me who I am today. They've lectured me when I've needed it. They've loved me when I've needed it. Most of all they have always been there for me since the day I started calling them friends and they have talked to me until the early hours of the morning, just listening and giving advice when needed. That is why they fit under the definition of a friend and that's why if your friend is the same, you treasure them.
Friendship is a partnership. It's got to be a mutual thing or it shouldn't be a thing at all. The people classed as my friends are all people who do what they can to put a smile back on my face when I'm down and they know I will do the same for them. I'll be there for them whenever they need me, including at stupid o'clock in the morning and they make that promise to me as well.
Don't become a door mat. Don't just be there for them whenever they need you if the favour isn't returned because you need someone you can trust to be there for you but who also knows that you will be there for them too.
Next time you're thinking about someone who you used to be friends with and who you used to be close to but has somehow faded away and barely talks to you any more, don't worry about it. If you're true friends, you'll find each other again and you'll be back to how you used to be but if you don't find your way back to each other again then just look back and smile at the old times but know that you'll have new and better times with someone else who is going to be an even better friend.
As I said earlier, just mention to your friend(s) that you're glad you met them and thank them for always being there when you need them. Where would you be without them? and they have helped to make you the person you are today. I bet you that they're glad they met you too! :)
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