Isn't it annoying when you meet someone and you just think 'You're soo perfect for me.' but then you're stuck and left thinking 'But now that I like you... what do I do?'.
Wouldn't it be so much easier if we didn't care about rejection? I thought that I'd got to the stage now where if he doesn't like me, he doesn't like me and it wasn't meant to be and if he does... Great, we'll go from there, but I've still got that nagging feeling every time I decide 'Right, I'm just gonna do it!' and there's a voice in my head screaming at me 'Don't do it! He doesn't like you in that way!! You're gonna get hurt!'
We all wish we were mind readers when it comes to stuff like this. Does he or doesn't he? Does she or doesn't she? Of course it works both ways. Some of us have the silly notion in our heads that the guy has to make the first move but how do you think guys feel about that? What if he's thinking the same as you are? 'I don't want to make the first move until I know she likes me.' Then you're both stuck aren't you?
I admire the people who have the guts to make the first move. When a guy tells me that he likes me but I don't feel the same, I try to be as nice about it as I possibly can be. I know exactly how he feels... humiliated, wishing that he hadn't said anything but also gutted that I don't feel the same about him and he'll be thinking that I'll not talk to him for a while now because it'll be awkward. I never do that. I'll talk to him about it all until he feels okay again and then we'll continue as we were before. Good friends. Treat others how you'd like to be treated and all that...
I saw the other day on Facebook, a page called 'Wait, what! You used to like me? Why didn't you tell me? I liked you too!' Or something along those lines and I just thought, yeah, been there done that. It's quite tragic when that happens and you think 'Damn, if only I'd had the guts to tell them!' And it all comes back to the R word. We're scared of rejection. If we didn't care, we wouldn't have this problem.
No-one likes being rejected. It hurts but we get over it. When you like someone, you've just got to go for it. Do you really want a couple years to pass and you and your crush (I hate that word...) are talking and you're having a conversation about old times and you slip out that you used to fancy them (I hate that word too... fancy. Sounds so childish.) and then they turn round and say 'I used to fancy you as well...' and it's too late now. Things have moved on, you've both changed, one of you or both of you are with someone else and you're just friends. The End. How sad is that? And it's times like that when the dreaded phrased 'What if...' turns up and you think what if you'd told them all those years ago. What if you'd had the guts to open up about how you felt?
You don't want to be in that situation. It sucks. So my advice is to not listen to that scared voice in your head demanding not to tell that person you like them. Just go for it! If you get rejected, so what? Have a cry or a sulk and then get over it knowing that it just wasn't meant to be and that there's someone 10 times better than them waiting just around the corner. You won't think that at the time of course because you'll be stuck on that person for a little bit but yeah... have faith that you won't be alone forever! There is someone better and someone that actually deserves you.
Don't fear rejection, take it as a good thing. Everything happens for a reason so in the long run, it'll have a good effect on you and will make you more brave, more understanding and stronger.
Tell them before it's too late.
