One for the Haters

There are a few people in my life that don't like me. Maybe I've messed with their heads unintentionally or fell for someone I shouldn't have. Maybe I have the life they want or stood up for something that they don't agree with. Whatever the reason, they're there and I'm here being disliked.
Does it bother me? Yes it does. No-one likes not knowing what they've done wrong but continue to receive verbal abuse and witty comments at their expense. It's just the way things are. We've all done it and we've all been on the receiving end of it too.

I don't like hurting people's feelings. It hurts me. Someone said something to me the other day and it hurt, a lot. I wanted sooo badly to turn around and say something back to hurt them but what would be the use in that? I got made a fool of so it makes sense if they get made to look like a fool as well, right? No, I don't think so.
Why waste time saying hurtful things when you could be making someone smile, I always say. Yes, most of the time people deserve the hurtful things that are said to them but does that really make you feel better by saying them? It makes you as bad as they are. You know what they say: Be the better person. So I do.

I let people walk all over me because I'm that 'nice little Christian girl' that I've been called many times. Sometimes I think... Do I really want to be called that? It sounds much cooler to be the 'bad ass chick that doesn't take any crap from people.' But then I think better of it. I'd rather have the reputation of being a nice person rather than a bitch. Don't get me wrong, cross me and you'll wish you hadn't, but I only result in that if someone has lied about something or me, behind my back or to my face or hurt one of my friends or family members. That's when I don't take any crap from people.

When people say hurtful things about me, either when I'm in the room, to my face or over the internet, I don't retaliate. That's what they want. People who do things like that over the internet are cowards and just want you to look bad in front of all your friends and start an argument. You won't get an argument out of me over the internet, you'll get a smart comment that makes you feel bad for making a comment that was supposed to hurt me and you'll feel silly for doing so.
I've already done a post on thoughts and opinions so read that after this if you feel like it but if not then it basically just says about stating your opinion. By all means do so, but to save arguments, put 'but that's just my opinion' after. I always say everyone to their own, we all have different opinions. If we liked and disliked the same things, it would be boring. So if you make a snarky comment about something that I like, 'Everyone to their own' is the reply you'll get because the effect of it is that it'll shut you up instead of causing an argument between us.

So, to my haters how ever many or little there are of you... I want to say sorry for whatever I did to make you dislike me. Talk to me about it cause if it's something I can change, I will. There's nothing worse than not liking someone, it makes you bitter or it actually makes you feel superior and then other people end up disliking you as well. If there's nothing I can do to make you feel different about me then you can carry on with the way things are now, that's fine. Whatever is best for you. I have people in my life that care about me and love me so if you're happy not liking me, then that's fine :)

And to everyone else, if you've got someone you dislike or you know of someone or multiple people who don't like you, do what you can to sort things out. YOLO (you only live once- for those of you who aren't down with the kids) and all that... so do you really want that negativity between you and someone else when you could be doing much better things like having fun, talking and laughing together? Think about it.

Man, I'm such a Chick - Chapter 1

Chapter 1

One of the most common and tragic wedding stories you hear about is when the bride has been given her dream wedding- they've spent thousands of pounds on it- and then on the big day, the groom gets cold feet because it finally dawns on him that he’s going to spend the rest of his life tied down to one woman, and he leaves the bride standing at the altar, awaiting his arrival- A moment that won’t come. The bride is then left heartbroken and decides she hates men and gives up on love.

We don't very often hear about that happening to men. Weddings are the most important day of a girl’s life. We think about the fact that she'll never abandon her wedding because it means so much to her. She’s dreamed of the day her whole life and she wants it to be perfect and spend the rest of her life with the man she loves.

This story is a bit a different because this story begins with a groom being left at the altar instead, wondering where his bride to be has got to.

“Dude, calm down! Knowing Natalie she’s probably just freaking out about minor details and it’s made her a bit late. I bet she'll be gliding through those doors any minute.” Jay was starting to get a bit nervous himself but as the best man he had to stay strong and reassure his best friend: keep him calm, relaxed and hopeful that his beautiful bride was on her way. Surely Natalie would be there soon. Right?

“Yeah, you're right. Why am I having doubts? She’s been waiting for this day since we first started dating. Going on and on about the day I'd be her’s forever.” He smiled thinking about every time she said it, she'd go onto her tiptoes to reach his lips and give him one long lingering kiss to lock the promise.

Jack snapped out of his day dream when he spotted the bridesmaids through the glass doors separating the foyer from the main church. He still couldn't see Natalie though but she was supposed to arrive after the bridesmaids anyway, in a separate car.

In the foyer Beth glanced at Jack through the glass doors. “He looks pretty calm. If I’d been 10 minutes late for my wedding, Nick would have been sweating buckets and probably pacing the floor with panic.” All four bridesmaids, Beth, Maggie, Kelly and little Chloe- Natalie’s 7 year old niece and three best friends since college- were all dressed in knee length, baby blue dresses with a white, silk ribbon around the waist with baby blue kitten heels. Each of them also wore a sterling silver daisy necklace with matching earrings. Natalie didn't believe in making the bridesmaids wear awful dresses just so she'd look better. This day was special for the girls as well so she wanted them to look beautiful too in a simple but elegant dress.

“We all deal with nerves and stress differently. Jack has always been one for staying cool, calm and collected in stressful situations. That’s why he’s so good at his job! I wouldn't be able to be a fireman… woman, that’s for sure. You remember how I was when my oven set fire? I was running around panicking and wondering what the heck I was meant to do!” Maggie said, remembering the day she'd had to quickly call Jack to come over and put the fire out. Luckily he and Natalie only live round the corner so the fire was put out in no time at all by a very relaxed Jack.

“Yeah, and that was before the fire had even started.” Kelly giggled.

“Okay, okay, we all know I'm bad at cooking!” Maggie blushed with embarrassment.

“The girls are laughing… that’s a good sign…” Jay commented feeling slightly relieved. He looked at Jack whose face gave away no sign of nervousness. Natalie was now nearly 15 minutes late. Jay wondered what would happen if she actually didn't turn up. Would he have to go and find her? Or would he ask one of the bridesmaids to do it? What if she’s decided she can't go through with it? How would Jack take it? The questions raced through Jay’s head, all unanswered until it would be too late. He was hoping that none of the questions would have to be answered though. It won't come to that.

The guests were starting to fidget in their seats, turning around and wondering where the bride was. Jack was pleading in his head for Natalie to arrive soon. Where was she? She was the main thought in everyone’s head at that moment.

Back in the foyer, the girls were starting to wonder where their friend had got to.

“I know! I'll ring the hotel to see if she’s left yet. Everyone form a semicircle facing me so that Jack can't see me on the phone. He'll only start worrying.” The girls turned their backs and faced away from Jack while Beth got her phone from her baby blue and white clutch bag and dialled the number of the hotel where they were all staying and having the reception later on.

“Hello Sir?” The hotel receptionist had picked up on the first ring. “This is Bethany Briggs, one of the bridesmaids from the Taylor wedding?” She paused, listening for the man’s reply.

“Yes, that’s the one. We're having the reception at your hotel later. I was just wondering if the bride has left the hotel, she hasn’t arrived at the church yet.” Confusion spread across Beth’s face. “Oh, okay then, thank you. Bye.” The girls all stared at Beth, waiting for the answer. They assumed it was bad news though, judging by Beth’s reaction.

“She’s already left. She left about 20 minutes ago.” Beth sighed. The hotel was only a 5 minute drive away. She couldn’t be stuck in traffic because knowing Natalie, if the traffic was that bad, she'd have walked. She'd decided on wearing white pump trainers covered in silver diamantes so walking wouldn’t be a problem.

“Where’s Auntie Natalie?” Chloe asked. In the panic of Natalie being late, the three girls had forgotten Chloe was there, she'd been so quiet.

“Auntie Natalie will be here soon sweetie,” Kelly told her. “We hope…” She said to the girls under her breath.

“Jay, go and talk to the girls. See what’s going on? The suspense is killing me.” Jack’s doubts were starting to come crawling back.

“Sure mate, I’ll be back in a few.” Jay made his way back down the aisle, staring straight ahead trying to avoid the gazes from the impatient and worried guests. Jack took a seat next to his mother who put a hand over his.

“ She'll come. She loves you.” She smiled at him, giving him a bit more hope. He smiled back at her but then sighed with mixed feelings. He knew he shouldn't doubt Natalie but she was now 25 minutes late. 5 more minutes and he was thinking he'd have to call it off. No bride is half an hour late for her wedding unless something has happened.

Just then, Beth’s phone started to ring. It was Natalie. Beth was terrified to answer It. What if there had been an accident and this was the police calling to let Beth know what had happened. Beth was one of Natalie’s ICE (In case of emergency) numbers. Jack and Natalie’s mum- Natalie’s ICE1 and 2- had probably turned their phones off ready for when the ceremony began.

Maggie, Kelly, Jay and even Chloe, stared at Beth waiting for her to answer it.

“Beth? Who is it?” Jay asked, even though he had his suspicions who it was from the look on Beth’s face.  

“It’s… it’s Natalie.” Beth pressed the ‘accept’ button on the touch screen of her phone and lifted it to her ear with hands trembling.