One for the Haters

There are a few people in my life that don't like me. Maybe I've messed with their heads unintentionally or fell for someone I shouldn't have. Maybe I have the life they want or stood up for something that they don't agree with. Whatever the reason, they're there and I'm here being disliked.
Does it bother me? Yes it does. No-one likes not knowing what they've done wrong but continue to receive verbal abuse and witty comments at their expense. It's just the way things are. We've all done it and we've all been on the receiving end of it too.

I don't like hurting people's feelings. It hurts me. Someone said something to me the other day and it hurt, a lot. I wanted sooo badly to turn around and say something back to hurt them but what would be the use in that? I got made a fool of so it makes sense if they get made to look like a fool as well, right? No, I don't think so.
Why waste time saying hurtful things when you could be making someone smile, I always say. Yes, most of the time people deserve the hurtful things that are said to them but does that really make you feel better by saying them? It makes you as bad as they are. You know what they say: Be the better person. So I do.

I let people walk all over me because I'm that 'nice little Christian girl' that I've been called many times. Sometimes I think... Do I really want to be called that? It sounds much cooler to be the 'bad ass chick that doesn't take any crap from people.' But then I think better of it. I'd rather have the reputation of being a nice person rather than a bitch. Don't get me wrong, cross me and you'll wish you hadn't, but I only result in that if someone has lied about something or me, behind my back or to my face or hurt one of my friends or family members. That's when I don't take any crap from people.

When people say hurtful things about me, either when I'm in the room, to my face or over the internet, I don't retaliate. That's what they want. People who do things like that over the internet are cowards and just want you to look bad in front of all your friends and start an argument. You won't get an argument out of me over the internet, you'll get a smart comment that makes you feel bad for making a comment that was supposed to hurt me and you'll feel silly for doing so.
I've already done a post on thoughts and opinions so read that after this if you feel like it but if not then it basically just says about stating your opinion. By all means do so, but to save arguments, put 'but that's just my opinion' after. I always say everyone to their own, we all have different opinions. If we liked and disliked the same things, it would be boring. So if you make a snarky comment about something that I like, 'Everyone to their own' is the reply you'll get because the effect of it is that it'll shut you up instead of causing an argument between us.

So, to my haters how ever many or little there are of you... I want to say sorry for whatever I did to make you dislike me. Talk to me about it cause if it's something I can change, I will. There's nothing worse than not liking someone, it makes you bitter or it actually makes you feel superior and then other people end up disliking you as well. If there's nothing I can do to make you feel different about me then you can carry on with the way things are now, that's fine. Whatever is best for you. I have people in my life that care about me and love me so if you're happy not liking me, then that's fine :)

And to everyone else, if you've got someone you dislike or you know of someone or multiple people who don't like you, do what you can to sort things out. YOLO (you only live once- for those of you who aren't down with the kids) and all that... so do you really want that negativity between you and someone else when you could be doing much better things like having fun, talking and laughing together? Think about it.