Just watched P.S I Love You for.... I dunno, the hundredth time? and it just got me thinking about love.
What Gerry does for Holly in that film is incredible and so selfless. He helps her to get through the grieving of his death and makes her become a new person who knows that she'll be able to survive without him. He gets her to do things she's never done before, gets her to overcome fears and by the end of the film he gets her to realise that she will learn to love again. I could go on and tell you more about them but I think that maybe, if you haven't seen it already, that you should just see the film!
Films, books and television programmes are responsible for what we define love as being, but I don't believe it's a myth. Everyone has a different concept of love, everyone feels differently about it and what we think is love when we do feel it, is different to someone else's feeling of it.
These days people- mostly my generation- throw that word around like it means nothing. After a few weeks, sometimes even days, of a couple going out with each other or even knowing each other, you'll probably hear them saying that word a lot, 'I love you so much baby' blah blah blah, you don't love each other don't be silly. I don't say that word unless I mean it now because at least that way, when I do say it, the person I'm saying it to will know it's genuine and that I'm serious.
In the film, the character Daniel says this line and it makes you really think: 'We're so arrogant, aren't we? So afraid of age, we do everything we can to prevent it. We don't realise what a privilege it is to grow old with someone. Someone who doesn't drive you to commit murder or humiliate you beyond repair.'
I agree completely with that statement. We spend hours and also a heck of a lot of money trying to make ourselves look younger. Dying our hair, having surgery, buying creams and lotions because we're scared of what we will look like when we get older. We think that as we get older, our partner won't love us any more because we'll look nothing like the gorgeous 20 year old blonde that works at the local shop that we think he'd much rather prefer to be with than us. We don't think ourselves as vain but we are really when you think about it that way.
When you're in love and get married, surgery, dying our hair, buying beauty products shouldn't matter, we should be proud of growing old beautifully and gracefully with that person. We don't need to spend loads of money on making ourselves look younger. I'm not saying don't make an effort to look nice after you get married because he's still going to want you to care about your appearance and look nice for him but just not to the extreme. He'll still want you to look like you! And then in 50 years time he's going to look at you adoringly and still see that beautiful girl he fell in love with and in his eyes, you won't have aged a day.
I still believe in the good old fashioned love and the romance we read about in books and watch in films. I believe in happily ever afters and so should you! They exist.
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