He's just not that into you

This goes along with Unrequited Love... but in a different way.

A girl will never forget the first boy she likes. Even if things don’t quite work out, say he pushes you about and hits you like little boys usually do, but usually someone is there to offer words of wisdom, ‘do you know why that boy did those things? It’s because he likes you.’ There it is! That’s the beginning of our problem. Do you know what this means? We’re all encouraged, programmed, to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.

Take a girl who has just been dumped, what do you usually say to her as her best friend? Something along the lines of, ‘he likes you too much, you’re too pretty and too great and he can’t handle it.’ Or if he doesn’t call her then you’ll tell her that he lost her number or something. Why do we say this stuff to each other though? Is it possible that it’s because we’re too scared and it’s too hard to say the one obvious truth that’s staring everyone in the face...? He’s just not that into you.

If a lad doesn’t call you after meeting up with you, then he’s not interested. The same goes, if he doesn’t talk to you over the net. If he wants to be with you, he’ll do anything to see you again and talk to you again. Don’t believe the stuff that you’re mates say. Sure she’s being honest and you are great and pretty but she’s using them as an excuse to help you get over him. If he’s just dumped you, it doesn’t mean he still likes you.
There might be an occasional time when it was a mistake that he dumped you, but he’ll apologise the next day and you’ll be back together again. If that doesn't happen to you, then don’t go after him and think that he broke up with you because you’re too pretty and he can’t handle it... that’s rubbish.

My advice to all the best friends out there, don’t say this stuff to your mates, you’re giving her false hope. I know and understand that you’re trying to be supportive but you might end up making things worse for her in the long run. Think about what you’re going to say to be supportive, maybe something along the lines of ‘There’re more like him out there that are better than he is and less of a jerk...’ That’ll help her more than practically saying, ‘it’s you, not him.'